Sometimes I just get into a funk. I’ll admit being my mom’s full time caregiver sometimes gets me down. There are times when I feel like I just can’t do this any longer. But I’ve also come to realize that these are the times when I have to dig deep inside because I’ve felt this way before and I know it won’t be the last time. So, when times get tough… and you know it will these are the times when you need to look after yourself, be kind and support yourself through it. Remember, this too shall pass. Hard times come and go. In the meantime, here are some things to remember and hold on to until the sunshine comes back into your life.
1. It’s Okay To Not Be Okay
Sometimes things don’t go right. Maybe you’re having a difficult time with your loved one. Allow yourself to feel angry, hurt, or sad. Cut yourself some slack, give yourself some space, feel the emotions and give yourself time to recover. Soon there will be another experience to learn from and leave behind. And if you need help, ask for it. Whether it’s a hug or advice or even some counseling, it’s ok to ask for whatever you need.
2. Let Go
Don’t let your happiness depend on outside things. Whether it’s other people’s achievements and expectations, or some abstract social media life fantasy. Maybe you don’t have a dime in your pocket… let go of trying to impress people or keep up with the world and choose to be happy your way.
3. You Can Do It
No matter what sort of tough time you’re having right now, look back and remember when you’ve gone through challenges before. You made it through then; you’ll make it through this time. Believe in yourself and your capacity to do what you need to do to overcome whatever is in your way. I guarantee you’ll come out the other side with more self-knowledge and be better equipped to deal with whatever life throws at you.
4. Be Kind To Yourself
When things are going badly, be extra kind to yourself and ramp up the self-care. Have your favorite food, eat some chocolate, Take a long luxurious bath, take a nap, go for a walk, or listen to your favorite music. Do whatever you need to feel better.
5. Stay In The Present
It’s easy to get caught up in beating yourself for past mistakes or getting into anxious knots about the future. Staying in the present is vital for dealing with what’s right in front of you. Hindsight is only useful if you learn from it. Otherwise, you’re just beating yourself up for no good reason. Who has time for that! Learn to stay in and appreciate the present moment. No matter how bad it is and no matter what’s going on around you, there will always be something to enjoy and be grateful for, even if it’s just having a cup of coffee! (and if you don’t have a favorite cup… get one) And chances are there are a lot of things in your life that are still good. Look around, notice and appreciate what you have right now.
When was the last time you were in a funk? What did you do about it? Comment below.